There are many forms of anger that come out in anger management classes and it is important to be able to recognize them. They demonstrate how a person uses anger as a way of coping with life. These were learned skills as kids and need to be looked at to see if they serve you. They are used both at work and at home.
The Intimidator: Gets what he wants by being loud and pushing people, often seen as a bully. The Whiner: Who always blames others and says life is not fair. The Interrogator: Who asks questions to which they already know the answer. They use this as away to establish power. The Control Freak: One who somehow always picks faults in others, breathes down their necks and always finds something wrong. The Joker: The one who makes remarks they think are funny that have a negative connotation and end up pushing other people’s buttons The Destroyer: He will smash things, his outbursts are unpredictable and he is volatile.
It is useful to ask what affect does this have on others? Also why is it necessary to use these approaches to get what you want, it says so much about the individual. While appearing to work they reflect his emotional weakness, his need to be distant and isolate and ultimately turn people (fellow workers, wives) off. He has done this all his life, initially he had legitimacy as a five year old when he was scared. But as a twenty or forty five year old…. What’s the purpose? What is he scared of today? Take a look.