Language over the last fifty years has changed a lot indicating where values have come from and gone to which has some relevance to anger management. According to Google, words of yesterday focused more on community and moral support than it does today.
We have replaced words like “communal” with “I can do it myself” “I come first”. “Appreciation” has declined along with “bravery” and “conscience”. “Faith”, “wisdom”, “kindness” are declining “Informative” and “disciplined” are ascending. The role of government is magnified today leading to “nationalism” “economic justice”, “priorities”
All this may sound as verbiage but the implication is the world is much more individualistic than before, more competitive and less of a community. To the individual he is less connected than before, more in a survival mode and less caring of his fellow man. This leads to more stress as he sees less support from the communal body as whole than before. He sees the world as more dog eat dog which leaves him more on guard, less moral conscience and much more self directed. Unfortunately men in anger management feel cut off and isolated and don’t how to relate constructively to get what they want. Their isolation exacerbates their anger
There is a paradox here, we are living longer yet the emotional happiness quotient is going down as the symptoms of stress get more and more. There is no easy way out for the individual, the world is changing yet the need to protect oneself is still there. Do any of these earlier values have use? And how can they be incorporated into one’s thinking today. Realizing they exist is a first step.